How do you know when you have hit the bottom?
When you keep getting stuck and you keep having that same self-limiting pattern shows up again and again in your life, how do you know that you have hit the bottom and that it is time to move on?
Maybe your life has turned to crap in some way. Maybe you are a financial mess. Maybe you keep having the same ugly relationship – over and over again – but with different people. Maybe you keep running smack into that same personal health issue like an addiction or otherwise trashing your body.
On the other hand, it might be that your life “looks” pretty good. You’ve got the money. You’ve got the stuff. But you keep running smack up into that glass ceiling; what Gay Hendricks calls the “upper limit problem”.
Regardless of your unique variety of being stuck, the question remains the same. Over and over you hit that wall, you hit that ceiling, or you hit that floor. And, you are going to keep doing it again and again until, finally, you have had enough. You have hit the bottom.
The true bottom looks like this. First of all, you are totally sick of it and you are done with repeating that same pattern over and over again.
Secondly, in a moment of inspiration or truth, you can see that it is not “them”. Its not your parents or your spouse or your boss. They just happen to be the one standing there at the moment. But wherever you go, whomever you are with, the negative, self-destructive pattern shows up. Where ever you go…….there you are.
Third, you are ready to take action. You are going to get a coach. You are going to do a workshop. Maybe you are going to do those things that last book told you to do. But, this time, you are going to handle it.
Here is a tip from a brother on the journey. You can’t handle the self-destructive pattern alone. If you could, you already would. You need support.
Get a coach. Get a therapist. Do an experiential workshop. Maybe do all of the above. If you want some suggestions, message me.
There are two completely different ways to be with your self-limiting pattern. One is that you use it as a story and you wallow in it and its your greatest excuse. The other is that you have had enough. You have hit bottom.
Which way do you choose today?
